Thursday, 8 April 2010


Its valentine and every body is getting hooked up or laid. There is so much love in the air; so much expectations...its the worst time to be lonely or to see who you want and not be able to get hold of them...everybody is celebrating love but to do this, you must first meet and claim love...most times its a within-a-jiffy thing, at other times you have all the time in the world but the 14th is just about 96hrs away! So I am reposting this article to give you an edge if you happen to bump into your dream girl soon...lets get down to business

Most girls will seriously consider you, if you can masterfully pass the “I want you” message to them. That is, if you can let them know how much you want them without making fusses of the art- without making either of you look stupid. Girls like men who are good communicators; guys who know what to say or do at the right time. Personally, I have observed that most guys that get an outright “No”, especially when they had just bumped into the girl, had such fate because someone was trying to save her face or the embarrassment. However, if you can spare the time to master certain skills of communication, you will maintain the winning side. So how...?


Whenever you bump into a girl, who gives you some tickle, get out of sight and do some fast thinking. As long as you keep her in sight you might not be able to find a good starting line. Your mind will be occupied either with oh she is beautiful, Does she recognize me? Or I might embarrass myself. Once out of sight, tail her- you know that old teenage game? Yes follow her, even if you have to change your route or wait on her. Take the time and study her; observe something special about her or her looks. It must be spectacular or you find a way to make it seem spectacular. After all, we all can decide what is spectacular to us- it’s a perception thing.


You remember the high school crash style- where the boy crashes into the girl, spills her books and helps her pick them up, while showing up his nicest self and playing the eye game? It still works; it’s one great entry strategy and I don’t know its inventor, but I admire it. Anyway, in the real world you might get smacked if you pull that kind of stunt- especially when most people move around either hungry or angry these days. But you can develop a strategy for yourself; try it out a couple of times and see how it works, then develop it.

For instance, in my by-the-roadside strategy; I walk up to the Sweetie with an I-don’t-know-the-way-and-I-am-lost face and ask for the way to a Block very close by- but out of sight. I act more confused as she describes the place until I get her to spare some time to at least take me towards a pointing distance. Once I can secure that, the rest is history. Sometime I would spend the short walk appreciating her help and saying something striking about that spectacular thing I observed in her, at other time, I could cook up a story of how I once got lost and almost got into trouble in another corner of the town. Anyway, I don’t give up myself or plans, rather the sincerity of my gratitude and the fuelling passion in me, always made me very convincing. You can take time to develop a strategy for yourself. But remember that every plan must have its situation.


Tell her your name in such a way that she would be compelled to tell you hers. Don’t ask her directly! You could get an “I don’t think that will be necessary” or more politely, “Sorry, I don’t think that will be necessary”. If you had succeeded in getting her to do you a favour, like in the instance above then be sure she will be ready to path with you on a good note. She wants to prove to you that she is as friendly and helpful as she had portrayed when she offered to help you. About her contact, it might be difficult to get her address, except off course the Chemistry is mutual, but you can get her number if you play smart. I remember once, after setting up a favour from a lady, I said, “If you don’t mind, you can save me a lot of guilt. I will remain guilty and indebted to you, if I don’t call you up later to say thank you.” If she is more receptive I can even ask “Do you mind if I check you up when next I come around here, at least to show some gratitude”. More often than not, I get an affirmative- maybe is my faith, maybe I have been lucky. Whatever; it doesn’t hurt if you try -who knows you might just get lucky.

Oh yes! you will need to BREAK UP THE TENSION:

Most people love to have a smooth conversation with people they just met- you know; the kind of talk you hear in the movies. Where every word, expression and gesture just fits in. It creates ease; offloading both parties of the natural tension when strangers meet. You can say something extraordinary and open-spirited- especially when it is least expected. She will love it when she can see through you; when she senses you are free-minded and warm. It assures her that she can find a friend in you, and then there is a possibility she would come to feel she has known you for years- a great achievement in whole game.

When it is safe, tell her how much you hope to see her again. I will tell you when it is safe to do that; in fact, you will find out before the end of this paragraph but before that. Tell her, that there are so many other truths, about your meeting, you’d love to reveal to her but can’t, for then, as it might not be safe to that. Arose her curiosity; make her float in the anticipation of the unknown. Let her understand only enough to want to know more and I tell you, you will see the Eve in her. Hey! It’s not fool-prove: nothing is these days; but if it works, it will be magical. The worst anticipatable is that she will feign no-interest but you will have made a bold note in her already puzzled mind. About when it is safe to do this: do it when you observe you have not been a put-off and that she would rather excuse herself than embarrass you. We guys, we know when it is safe anyway. We just feel it. Right?

If you don’t want to be hooked then BUILD A FORMIDABLE EXIT PLAN:

Sometime the last impression sticks harder than the first, so try and make your exit strategy remarkable. We are in a busy world and most people are so. Soon, they forget how it all began. Also, when you showed up, you probably wasn’t worth listening to but a chat later, you earn the girls interest and she wants you to remind her of what you said earlier. She could be like, “sorry, what did you say your name was again?” or “I didn’t get your name”. It is like in a job interview: you have hope when someone in the panel asks for your name after the interview or in prospecting; when a prospective buyer asks for your business contact when you are through with your proposal, even though you had said it when you first walked into their office. Your aim here is to scribble a lasting impression on her mind as you take your leave.

Finally, the part I am always eager for: BUMP INTO HER AGAIN:

Yes! Plan a natural meeting again; especially when you couldn’t get her contact the first time. If you really are serious with the Mami, you will trail her and find out how you can stage another bumping into. Find out where she hangs out, works, shops, worships or/and passes time; then fix an unauthorized date with her. She won’t turn you down when you come over for some introductions; because then you will be coming as a closer stranger. However, if it doesn’t work out then, stage another one- soon she will start holding fate responsible. I wish you luck my guy!

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